Taqwa in Marriage

As salamu Alaikum habibis! Let’s talk about taqwa in our marriages today insha’Allah.

We know Islam prohibits marriage to a non muslim unless he/she accepts the faith. The reason behind this being ours is a religion of peace and resolution alongside obligations for each other because we are governed by taqwa. Not just in marriages but in every other relationship we entertain and the life as the whole we live. Taqwa i.e. consciousness of being watched and therefore judged for our deeds and thought processes is our driving force in Islam towards righteousness. Since we believe in life after the death and the day of judgement, the idea well governs the way we execute ourselves and our relationships in this life. All of this constitutes the basis of our muslim character and our marriage which translates to the halaal way to channel desires and to propagate muslim progeny. In other ways marrying a muslim subjects us to a person who is more answerable and accountable to his/her deeds because of taqwa.

Now how does taqwa manifest itself in a muslim marriage? Let’s try to understand how. Even before the commencement of nikah, the consciousness of a muslim resides in his heart as such it restraints them from falling trap to zina or other forms of morally incorrect and religiously prohibited actions. As such a muslim when he/she appears as a prospect, one is relieved about his character and state of mind subhanAllah. From the opting to the process of marriage carried out, a true believer wouldn’t want to incorporate tacky and an unnecessary display of his/wealth and would adhere to simplicity and honesty. Similarly he or she wouldn’t be too extravagant in their demands when they have to claim any right granted by the religion. The idea of being judged will guide them better towards earning the respect of their families and the audience in general and above all keep him A-listed among the favourites of Almighty. The conduct of a muslim in his marriage life is equally impressive and warm. Islam states about marriage that it is equivalent to completion of half of our responsibilities towards our deen, the other half which involves living that married life determines the other half.

Here’s  a list how obedience of Taqwa influences ones life in a marriage.

1. The mere thought of injustice towards each other isn’t in close proximity with one’s behaviour. We believe in doing good to expect good.
2. Respecting each other to win the respect of Allah in turn is another reason what keeps a believer’s life in order.
3. Speaking truth and in general being transparent enhances reliability and which inturn reflects in our prayers-our daily meets with Allah SWT where we tend to be calm and at peace
4. Good behaviour because that’s what makes us best among the muslimeen and smoothes out the twists and the turns in our sometimes strained marriages .
5. Our behaviour during adversities, and trials from Allah SWT that inturn make us better humans.
6. Our behaviour with family, our children alongside our spouse, the influence we impart, our teachings to our children or many times suggestions to our partner is another important responsibility that falls on the shoulders of a muslim. The idea of a believing and a muslim practicing progeny and of a family who tries to implement your teaching and you being judged for how they conduct themselves in its obedience will yeild nothing but stability and the blessings of Allah SWT.

Being muslims our lives are organised and nobody better than us understands the value of the limited time we have been given in this world that we have to make better use for to reap what’s ideal in the hereafter i.e. Jannah. And sometimes a muslim may fail in his trails but again the beauty of our religion and the thought of our Creator being the most merciful will redirect us on the path that Allah loves.

May Almighty accept our good behaviour and grant us the highest places in Jannah alongside our families our well wishers and all muslims in general. Ameen!