Marriage is a broad phrase in and of itself. It is not just the union of two people but also the union of two cultures, families, and personal values. Marriage has a prominent role or unrivalled importance in every faith. Marriage in Islam is defined as a Nikah or a contract between two individuals who accept each other and are willing to live together with their permission. Marriage is much more than having someone to call a husband or wife, especially Muslims. The married partnership is a heavenly indication and a tremendous blessing, as Allah says in the Qur’an:
“And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquility in them, and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought.” [Qur’an: Chapter 30, Verse 21]
The fundamental point of having a spouse is to find peace in and with them, and our interactions with our partners contain signals that Allah (SWT) wants us to consider. After the honeymoon period has passed, it can be difficult for couples to maintain a good marriage. A good marriage requires effort, but it is doable. You can do things to have a healthy marriage, just as there are things you can do to have a healthy physique.
If there is one underlying need in every human interaction, it is the need to feel important and valued. Your relationship needs exclusive attention every single day. And there is no other relationship in which this need is so blatantly ignored and exploited as marriage. Our wives are an incomparable source of spiritual, emotional, mental, and bodily consolation, and they are a fantastic favour and boon from Allah (SWT). Because they follow Allah’s(SWT) instructions, happy Muslim couples grow in happiness. You and your spouse may begin to express gratitude for each other right now by thanking each other for at least one item each day, sharing a grin that says, “Thank you/ Jazak Allah Khair, you mean the world to me,” and so on.
In good times and nasty, happy Muslim couples converse like best friends. They joke, laugh, exchange ideas, flirt, complement each other, accept their spouse’s right to hold differing viewpoints and learn from each other’s opposing points of view while they’re having a good time. As the Prophet (PBUH) and his wives did, happy Muslim couples communicate.
The primary cause of marital tension and strife is nearly usually the failure to meet a spouse’s basic requirements. Every marriage consists of two individuals of opposing genders. Because you and your spouse are people with different preferences, priorities, and circumstances, what works for one couple may not necessarily work in your marriage. As a result, generalized ideas that may apply to many marriages may not apply to many others due to individual differences. It’s critical for your marriage’s health that you sit down with your spouse and find out what’s essential to them and how they’ve always expected you to meet those requirements. Happy couples seek to be the light in each other’s eyes.
When one or both spouses forget this fundamental reality, marriage turns individuals become partners, not parts of each other to be controlled and ruled over. As unpleasant as it may be, your spouse has many more responsibilities in life than simply being your husband. If you prevent them from fulfilling all of their duties, you’ll be the source of their ongoing aggravation, which will only exacerbate your marriage relationship. Allah (SWT) created each of us to contribute in various ways during our lives on this planet, and He has gifted us with the ability to be all that He desires. Be the wonderful person that pushes, promotes, and assists your spouse in discovering and utilizing their God-given potential and attributes so that they can flourish and provide pleasure and kindness to the world.
There isn’t a single marriage that doesn’t have some form of dispute or disagreement. The health of one marriage differs from the health of the other only in terms of how conflicts are handled.
The most effective strategy to manage and reduce marital disputes is to remember that Allah (SWT) is watching and listening to every single action and expression we make. And it’s all being documented in preparation for the Day when He’ll be the Judge. Keeping this in mind during a fight might help us avoid succumbing to our lower selves and Shaytan’s whispers in the heat of the moment, saving the marriage from irrevocable, long-term damage. Committed Muslim couples continually help each other come closer to Allah (SWT) by preventing one other from doing anything that would bring them down in Allah’s eyes (SWT) and assisting each other in winning Allah’s affection.