Taking a step towards Nikah is one of the most important steps of anyone’s life. We all feel different kinds of pressures like emotional, social, and even financial before entering the knots of matrimony. As much as people talk about life and etiquettes Muslim should observe after his/her Nikah, we also need to discuss more what we need to do before way finally say yes. Qubool Hai is just two words that are powerful enough to change one’s life forever.
We have some simple guidelines for you that will help you to think thoroughly before you make any final move. Firstly, you should introspect yourself to know the reason why you need a partner. Nikah is a lifetime commitment. So, it is very important to talk to oneself because you are looking for a person with whom you will build your family.
Next, while you are looking for a spouse, you need to talk more. Even if you are introvert it becomes your responsibility to take care of what is being discussed about your future. Nobody knows you better than yourself. You should communicate with your parents and elders about what you need in your spouse. Communication is the key to making the final choice.
When you are finding the right person for Nikah, it does not mean that you can take the chance of looking at the person or talk to him/her in a flirtatious manner. If you decide your potential spouse before making the decision, make sure that you lower your gaze.
“Tell the believing men to lower their gaze and be modest. That is purer for them. Lo! Allah is aware of what they do” (Quran 24:30).
“And tell the believing women to lower their gaze and be modest, and to display of their adornment only that which is apparent, and to draw their veils over their bosoms…” (Quran 24:31).
Always remember to involve your parents or guardians to meet under their scrutiny. Meeting alone is not a very wise decision.
The Prophet said: “Whenever a man is alone with a woman the Shaytan makes a third”
So, before you go to meet the person clear your head with what you are expecting from a life partner and what questions you need to ask. We have discussed some of the questions that you can ask your potential spouse before saying yes. reading the article will give you good insights into how to proceed with making a good choice.
What do you think are other important things that need to be considered before saying, Qubool Hai? We would love to ponder upon your ideas.