Nikah is one the strongest pillars of a Muslim’s life as Nikah comprises half of your Deen in this world. Your spouses are half of your Deen so it becomes very important to be cautious while choosing the right partner. This is why many people take longer time to reach the final choice so that they have to bear minimum risk. A good wife is like a blessing just like a bad wife is equal to hell. Today, people pay lot of undue importance on features and beauty as those materialistic attributes are most important for them. Unfortunately, most of the times, people fail to see the good in character and rejects a person because of his/ her poor wealth and beauty.
One should seek a wife who is known to be of good character. The one who has been raised in Islamic atmosphere will make your home a Jannah with her principles and morals. This is the reason that the family background of girls are considered to be very important.
Allah’s Messenger, the Prophet (Peace be upon him) said:
“A woman is usually married for one of the three qualities: she is married for her wealth; she is married for her beauty; or she is married for her religion. So take the one of religion and manners- may your right hand then be prosperous.”
[as-Sahihah no. 307]
So, Allah clearly says that the most blessed are those who choose wives for their good character and moral religion instead of beauty and wealth. This is because a woman of low character and poor standards must be avoided even if she has extraordinary beauty and possess other attractive qualities.
Allah’s Messenger, the Prophet (Peace be upon him) said:
“There are three individuals that when they supplicate to Allah, their supplication is not answered: a man who has a wife of bad character but he does not divorce her, a man who lends money to another man without taking witnesses, and a man who gives money to a weak-minded person.”
[as-Sahihah no. 1805]
When Allah mentions bad character, we need to understand the meaning of bad character. It pertains mostly to qualities like looseness and promiscuity, making the woman’s conduct dubious and her chastity questionable. A man is not supposed to keep such a wife.
We as an ideal Muslimah must work upon our character and moral principles along with working on our degrees and medals.