Men as well as women prefer such partners who can keep their secrets safe. But perhaps the most dangerous of all the secrets that a spouse can expect is the disclosure of what happens in the bedroom between the two. Whether it is the actual act of sexual intercourse or its small intricate details, every description should remain a secret only between husband and wife. No other third party has the right to know what is going on in your sex life.
In an authentic Hadith, Abu Sa’id Al-Khudri narrated that the Messenger of Allah (Peace and Blessings of Allah be upon Him) said:
“From the most evil of people in ranking with Allah (i.e., in His Judgment) on the Day of Resurrection is a man who goes to his wife (an expression that refers to sexual intercourse) or his woman who goes to him, and then one of them spreads the secret of his or her companion.” (Muslim:1437)
Further, it has also been mentioned in Qur’an several times that a Muslim should observe less speaking. He should only speak when needed and refrain himself from talking anything insensible. In such a case, the wife or the husband should not even mention to any outsider how is their relationship in bedroom is going on without a valid reason. Such an act even if not telling the details is disliked by Allah.
The Prophet (Peace and Blessings of Allah be upon Him) said:
“Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, then let him speak well or remain silent.” (Al-Bukhari: 6018 and Muslim: 47)
However, if there is a need to affirm or deny that one had sex with one’s spouse, then it is not disliked to speak about the matter. For example, in case the spouse needs to complain to a judge about the wrong-doings in the process, or when the husband or wife is incapable of performing sexual relations, then in such case it is deemed justified to speak about the matter and find a solution.