Islam guides a Muslim in every sphere of life be it manners, character, or marriage. A happy marriage results from a healthy intercourse between the husband and the wife. In this regard, Islam has made sexual intercourse as necessary in marriage as it reflects the innate nature of men and women which fulfils pleasure and not just procreation.
Qur’an says, “Indeed, the people of Heaven do not take delight in the pleasures of heaven more than Nikah; neither food nor drink has that pleasure for them.” – (Surah Ali, Verse 14)
This clearly says that in this world and hereafter, sexual relations between a husband and a wife gives the utmost pleasure. Such relations should not be repressed and should be regulated in a manner as told by Allah.
The Prophet (P.B.U.H.) said, “Three things are from the Sunnah; application of perfume, consuming of meat and engaging in a lot of conjugal relations with your spouse. Any person that turns away from this Sunnah is not from me.”
When marital relations are given such a high status in Islam, then it is our duty to perform it the right way. Nikah rewards both the partners, every time the conjugal relations are maintained. As Muslims, we should be educated of the etiquettes involved in performing relations to derive more pleasure. It is not morally acceptable for a man to go to his wife in haste. It is advised to start with caressing so that the wife may feel more comfortable and loved.
In this light, Qur’an says, “When any of you wants to sleep with his wife, he must not rush her for indeed women have needs to”.
It is morally obligatory for a man to understand that a woman takes longer to express her desires. So, for mutual understanding and satisfaction, a husband should be more considerate. With those couples who have small children in the house must ensure that they do not see or hear anything. This tends to have a negative impact on innocent minds of children at an early age.
After completing the relations, the husband and wife should perform Ghusl al-Janabat as soon as possible. This etiquette is recommended for cleansing the mind and the body. Thus, Muslim couples should take care of all the etiquettes while coming close to one another as those form a part of your Nikah.