This blog being the concluding one for the whole week’s lessons on Courting comprise of certain forms of prohibitions that are related to men. We intend to explain the same through different Hadith so that the authenticity of knowledge is maintained.
Allah’s Messenger, the Prophet (Peace be upon him) said:
“A woman may not be married to a man who is married to her paternal or maternal aunt. A woman should not request that her sister be divorced so that she would fill her own plate (with food- if she is a co-wife) or get married (instead of her), because she will only receive what Allah has prescribed for her.”
[Recorded by Muslim]
- A man who already has four wives should not court an additional woman- unless he divorces one or more than one of his wives.
- A man is not permitted to court a woman who he is not allowed to simultaneously with a current wife, such as her sister or her aunt.
- A man who had divorced a wife three times is not allowed to consider her unless she gets married after him to another man who after consummating their marriage, willfully divorces her.
- A woman who is in her Iddah from a husband’s death or a terminal divorce may not be approached with direct proposal before the end of her Iddah. She may only be approached by a subtle hint, such as telling her, “When you finish your Iddah, a man with just a few children may want to marry you.
Allah has said,
“There is no blame upon you for that to which you indirectly allude concerning a proposal to women, nor for what you conceal within yourselves. Allah knows that you are going to remember them. But do not promise them secretly except for saying a proper saying. And do not decide to undertake a marriage contract until the decreed period reaches its end. And know that Allah knows what is within yourselves, so beware of Him. And know that Allah is Forgiving and Tolerant.
[Al-Baqarah 2:235]