Today, we will talk about the prejudices held by the Muslim Community regarding the inter-caste Nikah. Most of the families still look out for their children’s spouses within their own caste. We all know that Muslim Society is driven by traditions and ancestral belongings. We tend to follow the path our ancestors followed without rational discretion. However, Nikah is one of the most important decisions of our life. Don’t you think limiting that decision due to our ancestors’ orders is a bit stereotypical? Although it is completely fine if the bride and groom readily agree to marry someone from their own family and caste. But otherwise, how many of you would stand to support inter-caste Nikah for your children?
Let us talk about it in the light of Hadith as told in Qur’an.
“Verily Allah has removed from you the stupidity of the pre-Islamic era (Jahiliyya) and their boasting of their ancestors. Whether you are god-fearing believers or wretched sinners, you are the sons of Adam, and Adam was created from dust”
Qur’an clearly mentions removing any stupidity and irrational prejudices that were a part of the pre-Islamic Era. Formation of castes is a manmade consequence. What is important is the person’s Deen and the light of Islam in his matter. It is not important if the person belongs to another country or caste or has a different color than us. We should be open-minded and more liberal while deciding our partners for Nikah.
With respect to this, Qur’an mentions,
“A woman is married for four reasons: for her wealth, her lineage, her beauty and her religious inclination, choose the one who is religious (or) you will be ruined.” [Bukhari; Muslim]
Are we so blind to ignore this Hadith only to fulfill our worldly ego and pride? Beautiful marriages are made by partners who take Nikah as a Sunnah. Those who aim to lead the lives in the footsteps of the Prophet (P.B.U.H.). So, it is upon us to see beyond the extrinsic characteristics while choosing the perfect match.
Let us ask ourselves how many times we forcefully convinced our children to marry someone from our own caste just to plead our relatives. We have become so ignorant that we forget how Allah has commanded us to not to force anyone to marry without seeking his/her permission. Let us spread this message far and wide. Let us create awareness for making Inter-caste Nikah a part of normal society.